My fiancé's phone habit (Instagram, TikTok) is seriously hurting her potential to find a job and our relationship. I've tried to talk to her about it but the discussions never end well. I don't know what to do.

> This is an example of how methods to empower women, when wrongly applied, can have the opposite effect, making them feel even more insecure and powerless.

The soft bigotry of low expectations and affirmative action rears its ugly head yet again.

Hire people of all races, genders and creeds based on _merit_, not diversity quotas. No one should have to show up to work feeling like a second class citizen and that they're only there because of their sex or the color of their skin.

Just a note that it’s useful to think about what merit criteria you have and what really matters for your job. There’s a lot of room for biases to sneak in under the guise of an objective measure.

For example, looking for only people who graduated from a certain tier of school limits you by adopting whatever discriminatory practices that those schools have adopted. Or looking for people with a particular experience that is rarely afforded to a particular class of people.

Instead, by working identify the merits that actually result in high performance and then working to evaluate those in an interview can get you better and more diverse employees.