I think this confusion is a stereotypical introvert vs extrovert thing. The interrupting human voices and drama distract and exhaust some, while focusing and energizing others.

I can listen to music while doing grunt work, but I need silence to concentrate. There may be a language issue WRT "coding" where design and implementation needs silence, minor optimization and bug fixing is possible, maybe more enjoyable, with music.

There may be more factors beyond these two.